To fall in
love -- considered by some as the ultimate quest
in life, and prepared by others with a constant
and unending flow of fantasies, dreams, and
enchanting ideas. And what we find sometimes to be
so uniquely freakish of a fetish of our own, so
personally vaulted and denied at every conscious
inquiry -- we find, in fact, that it is a secrecy
of our own sexuality and our own fantasies, that
disallows us from discovering that, what we find
to be deviant is actually commonplace in the minds
of all individuals. There is no person whose
sexual ideas are unique, no fantasy of anyone that
is not based on the same roots of the fantasies of
others. This is sexuality, a social and emotional
facet of every human. So, it must be granted as
truth, that it is the repression of sexuality in
our society, that convinces us that our own
sexuality is a freak, a deviancy, an intolerably
disgusting and improper attitude. Despite the fact
that sexuality has been an intrinsic part of the
lives of the hundreds and hundreds of millions of
people, or the hundreds of billions of animals,
there are still some puritanical ideas of people
to oppose it. And, even if sexuality weren't
commonplace, one would think that the argument of
"so long as none are harmed, let it be,"
would be enough to justify it. I think that it was
not a matter of argument, but one of shame and
repression, that granted the puritan-minded people
to believe and preach as they do.
If, in fact, those of the puritanical ideas had
no conception of sexuality, I do not believe they
could have the will to rally against sex. If it is
just a fact of life, nothing that personally
effected them, then it would not be something they
could muster so much unforgiving hate for. Alas, I
do not think these puritanical ideas have done
much of anything to uplift the personality of
goodness or the character of charity. The idea
that sex is an evil is not a friend of the ideals
of kindness, intelligence, or truth. These
puritanical soldiers have done nothing but bog
down the structure of civilization, waging a war
against our own animal nature. By seeing their own
feelings of sexuality, experiencing the desires
and urges, the thoughts and inhibitions, puritans
find themselves villified with their own
character, ashamed and mortified. I think that
people manage to put anger, passion, and strong,
powerful emotions into vengeance, when it is their
own personal nature that they are attacking. The
puritans have allowed themselves to be cruel,
brutal, and absolutely cold blooded in their war
against sex. As the blood running through
civilization warmed, the extent to which they were
allowed to fight has been limited and limited.
Tortures and murders were an intrinsic part of the
original Puritan culture, when it came to their
attitude about punishing sex.
It is a rather popular statement, that beaty is
in the eye of the beholder. Yet everyone seems to
interpret this statement differently. The fact
that someone or something is beuatiful is only
true because there is a critic to call it that. No
artwork exemplified beauty without an onlooker, no
song brought forward melody without a listener, no
poem created peacefulness or rage without a
reader. There can be no argument to this. We find,
also, that just as beauty is in the eye of the
beholder, so is ugliness in the eye of the
beholder. The same artwork that was called
beautiful by one may be called ugly, disgusting,
or otherwise unappealing by another. It is here
that the true meaning of the phrase may be
captured. The only reason why something is
appealing or unappealing, attractive or
unattractive, is because there is a mind in the
sensory organs there to judge. The ideas of what
is or is not gorgeous, enchanting, homely, or
wretched are all dependent upon the viewer. Then
we apply these ideas to a person. One's voice is
seen as glorious in tone or rancid in quality. The
face and body become a considerable work of art or
a defaced panting, or something in between or to a
more extreme. Judging a body and a face, though,
as beautiful or ugly, is a much different action
than judging a painting as either beautiful or
ugly.
A person, unlike a painting or a poem, is
conscious, capable of emotion and happiness. All
of a sudden, their physical attributes become
subject to criticism and judgment. What is the
purpose, though, of finding someone attractive or
unattractive? The simple and obvious answer is for
thepurpose of mating and procreation. Now that the
reason for appeal or unappeal, in a person's
beauty anyway, has been uncovered, another
question remains open. If a person's outter shell
can be judged as ugly or beautiful, by one person
or another, and since this judgment does not help
us to determine their character, should we
disregard beauty and ugliness as a deterent to a
person's true self?
Of those individuals who call themselves
Freethinkers, artists, independent minds, lovers
of intelligence and friends of liberty, it is the
typical attitude that a person's emotions and way
of thinking is in fact a part of their intrinsic
self. There can be no greater proof of this than
experience: beautiful people may be cruel and
heartless, as the ugly people can be intelligent
and meaningful, and vice versa. A person's beauty
does not determine the way they think. It does not
make them more kind or charitable, nor does it
instill in them attributes of vice or cruelty.
This fact, I imagine will meet with no argument
from those whom have experienced the world. The
Freethinkers, though, have further advanced this
position, by incorporating this philosophy int
their personal lives. They do not judge people on
their image, and accept friendship and affection
from someone regardless of theri looks, and they
are not less scornful of a brutal person no matter
their beauty. They have taken a rational position
and they must be commended for that. In another
way, some of them have incorporated their
philosophy into their sexuality, either
consciously or unconsciously. For example, they
find someone attractive based on their ideas,
their character, their way of thinking and
personality. One's physical body becomes esxually
arrousing once they are identified with ideas of
justice and goodness. They have not warded off
human sexuality, so they have much more
mindfulness and personal awareness than the
puritans. In some cases, a Freethinker who fell in
love with someone for their ideas, after the
berakup, individuals they see resembling their
initial love, even if socially considered
unattractive, are considered attractive by the
Freethinker.
So it happens, that the phrase comes to us,
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,"
and we find that beautiful and ugly are relative
terms, subjective in that they are exsiting only
in the mind. Our natural response to this is that
a person cannot wholly be judged by their
physical, since they are conscious. they are
capable of thoughts, ideas, emotions. Thus we find
every Freethinker and independent individual
falling in love with a personality of a person,
irregardless of physical appeal.
There is one fact that must be treated, though.
An individual cannot have sex with a personality.
As much as the idea is desired, physical affection
cannot be given to a thought, an idea, or a
character. It is necessary that a body is there.
Admiration of an individual and their thoughts is
never so pure or heart-warming as when there is a
face for that individual, by which emotions and
even ideas can be expressed. The look of ease, of
a person laying down at the end of a long day, or
a look of interest and intrigue, fascinated by the
current occurrences, or a look of boldness and
strength, defending what we believe in and what we
fight for. The analytical expression, unsatisfied
with what we know, delving through thoughts,
facts, memories, to develope a more just theory --
the expression of deep thought, it allows us a a
greater admiration of the deep thought itself.
Nothing can greater express sadness than a story
one wished to levie by retelling, accompanied by
tears.
This is just the face alone: eyes compliment
diw th brows, a mouth given a tongue, and a nose,
the rest covered with skin enveloping ten thousand
muscle strands, all of which can combine to tell
us thoughts and emotions. Anger and aggression,
sadness and solemnness, pleasure and euphoria,
exhaustion and rest -- all feelings by which we
can purely communicate to another by the
contraction or relaxation of our face muscles. The
blessing of the voice adds to whatever feeling we
are comunicating, even if we are not speaking
actual words. In fact, the emotion or facial
expression delivers is dramatically heightened and
empathically understood those vocal sounds which
transcend all human language, particularly when we
express a sudden pain, joy, or understanding.
Then, we are to consider the rest of the body.
There are few words so reassuring, as a gentle,
affectionate, and understanding touch. The idea of
love can be written in a million poems and a
thousand essays, which help us understand it in a
reflective manner, but few things are so
realistically understood as love when through the
physical act of it; it is so logical to believe
that experience is necessary to knowledge in this
situation, just as it is impossible to know the
true nature of terror without going through war,
or other experiences. Lips, eyelashes, and other
facial features, gently caressing, touching, or
nuzzling the intimate or even common parts of the
body: love-making, never so real or pure as can be
demonstrated through experience. Those gentle
parts, the neck, the stomach, the inner arms, find
themselves also to be the most intimately felt.
Perhaps it is the nature of evolution: ourselves
becoming most protective of our most vulnerable
parts, that they can also be the most intimate
parts, because we feel that we want our lovers to
feel those parts which we are most aware of. The
other parts, the spinal column, the inner fore
arms, the hands, though we are not only protective
of them, we regard them during sex as gentle and
intimate.
Understand, though, that up to this point, of
the necessity of a body for physical expression
and physcial love, I have said nothing of beauty,
spoken no words on one's complection as it is
concerned to sex. I have only demonstrated the
purity of expression when physical, when either in
body and through the face. Yet there may be
something rather unsettling, or otherwise
seemingly contradictory about these thoughts.
Those who have based their opinion on Freethought
and independence, have argued that the physical
complection, of beautiful or ugly, is not
accurately indicative of a person's inner
character. But, on the other hand, the body allows
us the most pure and affectionate method of
expressing our desires.
I suppose that it must be admitted that one's
body and face is an important part of love and
sexuality. Whether we find one's body to be
beautiful or not, the existence of such a body is
important. But, beauty can even play a positive
role in this. A body may in fact be considered
indefferent, perhaps somewhat ugly or holmely.
But, once that body has a personality, an opinion,
an ideal, a character, these things alone may be
enough for us to find them attractive physically.
The same can be said of a body we initially find
attractive, but then we hear a rather
unintelligent, thoughtless mind speak, a rather
cocky personality, and an otherwise unattractive
character, and we find them ugly physically. It is
not always the case, but it happens to be true
often. Thus, beauty, no matter what it comes from,
a physical complection, is necessary to a
meaningful relationship.
Before ending this dissertation, there are
still some thoughts on beauty that will not rest
in my heart until I have fully explained them. As
I stated before, there are many people who would
find it immature or thoughtless to love or deeply
care about someone just by their physical
complection. But, it is almost a thing of
serenity, when a young boy's passions are
enveloped around just the image of a girl.
Granted, he may not be thoughtful in his quest,
but he is listening to his desires. The thoughts
and ideas that are spurning in his mind may be
misguided, but they are gorgeous, wonderful, and
even comforting. Fantasies may be pplayed out
where just a kindly personality is placed in the
boy's fictionaly apparition of her. He will feel
joy when he imagines her impressed with every
aspect of him, and very loving and caring of him.
The same can be said of a girl and her affection
for any handsome man.
With this, I end. I can only hope that I have
enlightened some minds.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Punkerslut (or Andy Carloff) has been writing
essays and poetry on social issues which have
caught his attention for several years. His
website www.punkerslut.com
provides a complete list of all of these writings.
His life experience includes homelessness,
squating in New Orleans and LA, dropping out of
high school, getting expelled from college for
"subversive activities," and a myriad of
other revolutionary actions.